What I Want For Mother’s Day

May 7, 2010 at 22:09 1 comment

This Sunday will be my first mother’s day.

Last mother’s day I was swollen and irritable and out of my mind with nausea and fatigue, and working my ass off building a tiny human in my womb, but for some reason that didn’t count.

So Sunday will be my first mother’s day. To be honest I am not sure how to feel about it. There is a part of me shying away from the attention and sentiment.

I spent 38 weeks sustaining a life within me, and 7 months now sustaining that same life outside of my womb. I feel like a super star. I feel powerful, capable, and female. I appreciate having a day marked on the calendar for everyone else to recognize all of those wonderful things.

But more than all those things I just feel tired. I feel lost and stretched thin. Worst of all I feel guilty for feeling that way. That’s right; I said it, guilty, the most common cliché in the mom-verse.

There is no other word for it though. When my partner asked me last week how I would like to celebrate mother’s day I didn’t imagine spending the day basking in the loving glow of my family appreciating the shit out of me. My first thought was to ditch the kid and spend a few hours as far away from the word mother as I could get and just be my own sovereign being for a while.

I almost followed that up with the statement ‘don’t get me wrong, I love my family’. I caught myself though; I refuse to buy into the ridiculous idea that being tired means I don’t love my family. Being frustrated and exhausted doesn’t make me a bad mother, or a bad wife. I do know that.

I do not feel guilty because of some misguided idea that loving my family means having to like them 100% of the time. I know better than that.

It’s the pressure of the day that’s bothering me I think. It’s MOTHER’S day, and on a day set aside specifically for others to celebrate and appreciate my motherhood, shouldn’t I be appreciating it too?

On Sunday while I am eating my special mother’s day breakfast, and reading my cheesy mother’s day card and participating in whatever other activities my family has planned for me. I will be feeling tired and guilty because they are so wonderful and thoughtful, and all I want to do is run away and hide for an afternoon of quiet solitude.


Entry filed under: mother's day, motherhood.

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  • 1. dk  |  May 8, 2010 at 02:03

    In our family on mother’s day – the family either made breakfast or brunch for mom.

    Then we kicked her out of the house for the day & spent the day cleaning the house and doing all those things she did for us so tirelessly.

    Then we made her supper and did all the cleanup.

    Mom’s get tired. They do a million jobs. Maybe after breakfast and cards and a family cuddle you could ask for a mini vacation. It is your day and you deserve it.


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